Nearly everyone has been in the situation where they’re anxiously waiting for a job offer to arrive — but they’re also dimly aware that if they get the job, they won’t like it.
They want the job offer anyway. They can’t afford to think about whether or not they’ll like the job. They need the money!
The problem with this kind of decision-making is that it nearly always backfires.
When your trusty gut is screaming “Run away — this place and these people are toxic!” your trusty gut is not being fussy. Your gut’s standards are not unreasonably high!
Your trusty instinct evolved over millennia to keep you safe, and that’s why your gut screams at you in the middle of the night while you’re wondering why it’s taking so long for the company to check your references and make you an offer.
You already know why it’s taking so long. They are careless about making job offers because snagging talent is one of their lowest priorities. Two different people inside the company have already told you “This process may take a while.”
They did not apologize for the bureaucracy and/or incompetence that makes their recruiting system so painful to deal with.
They are used to interacting with people whose self-esteem is low. They themselves are defeated. They are slogging their way through to retirement.
If there was ever any juice, spark or good feeling in the company, it disappeared a long time ago.
Here are ten signs to think carefully before you walk into a new job that could crush your mojo and make it harder for you to job-hunt again when the brutal reality hits you, three to six months from now:
When we feel desperate for money and/or desperate to be working again, we think that nothing could be as bad as another month of unemployment. If we take a job in a toxic workplace to get money coming in, we learn the truth.
Working among people who hate their jobs and hate themselves for having those jobs is a special kind of punishment.
Don’t inflict that punishment on yourself! Keep the job search going, take a side job or two to pay the most urgent bills and remember: only the people who get you, deserve you.